My feelings towards motivation are bittersweet, when I have it I feel amazing like when the waiter brings a fresh glass of wine and pizza to your table but when I don’t have it I feel so disappointed, like when the waiter walks straight past you and gives the food and wine to the table behind. Over the years I’ve struggled with finding the right balance and working out what truly motivates me. Although I still get major dips and want to stay in bed all day drinking tea and watching Friends, I think I’ve cracked it (it’s only taken me 25 years)
If I didn’t start my day with lists, I would get nothing done. I think it’s the feeling of accomplishment you get when you tick something off. Of course, you shouldn’t put too much pressure on yourself, its a list not a contract but at the end of day if you find you’ve ticked at least a couple of things off you’ll feel on top of the world.
I’m quite a visual person; I also love arts and craft so mood boards play a big role in motivating me. There’s nothing worst than vaguely having a clue of what you want to achieve but all your ideas are jumbled up in your head. Grab a few magazines, fabrics, anything you can get your hands on and stick it down; it will not only let out those ideas you couldn’t quite put in order but will also produce fresh ones.
Now, I’m not talking about somebody following you around to feed you chocolate every time you achieve a task (although wouldn’t that be amazing?!) but the majority of us feel motivated when we know we will be getting something back for it, that might sound a bit selfish but it’s life and how our brains work; my tip would be reward yourself after you’ve accomplished something or got to a certain point, this could be anything from a cup of tea to those ASOS boots you’ve had your eye on for ages.
‘Tidy house tidy mind’ couldn’t be more accurate. If my surroundings are messy, my mind becomes messy leaving me to feel anxious and demotivated. Clearing up and organising your surroundings will only take up an hour or so and then you can spend the rest of your time being proactive and productive as humanly possible.
FAMILY & FRIENDS
Don’t get me wrong, the goals I set myself are for me but when you’re feeling deflated; theres nothing a family member or friend can’t do to make you feel more positive. When all you can think about is the reasons you can’t do something, they’re there to give you all the reasons you can.