I’ve been growing my fro for a few years now and I’m not going to lie, it’s been a slow process; mainly because I didn’t know how to care for it. I’d basically wash it once every few weeks, wake up, shake it and let the knots take control – Oh and I’ve only ever had my hair trimmed 3 times in my life and only one of those times was at a hairdressers (mainly because when I ever I’ve walked into a salon the stylists would look at me terrified.)
When I was younger, I remember being ashamed of my curls when I was little because all I wanted was straight hair like all my friends; I asked my mum to cut it short and then went on to relax it over and over. My hair became frazzled and the only answer was to shave it all off and start again. I still get comments today about how many afro looks better tamed and blah blah blah but you know what, I worked hard to get it to the condition it is in so I’m going to work it.
It wasn’t until recently I started to really take care of my fro, buying products, seeing what works best for my hair and now its started to grow a lot quicker. Before I got to this stage though, I would constantly listen to the myths on what was best for afro hair which slowed the ‘having unreal Beyonce curls down to my bum’ process down.
Here are the top 3 myths I wish I’d never listened to:
You should only wash your hair once a month
There is an ongoing rumour that Afro Caribbean hair needs to soak in its own natural oils and to do so, it should be washed rarely, rather than regularly. WRONG. Yes, Afro Caribbean hair is completely different to other hair types but if your hairs dirty, wash it. With the amount of product we put in our hair daily, we need to wash away the build up to encourage and stimulate hair growth. Now don’t get me wrong, washing your hair everyday isn’t healthy either. It’s about finding that perfect balance for your hair.
Relaxing your hair is much easier and less expensive to maintain
This is the worst myth of all and I’ll tell you why. When I was younger I had beautiful, long super curly hair (it was literally down to my butt) but when I was a teenager I was told I should relax my hair, it’s much easier and ‘looks better straight’ so off I went to the shop, bought the best relaxer I could with my pocket money and the next thing you know I had straight, damaged short hair. My curls never bounced back and it wasn’t until I shaved my entire head of hair, that my curls began to bounce back. Trust me, I will never relax my hair again.
Your fro will never grow
As I mentioned before I shaved my entire head of hair in a bid to get my curls back and it worked! Before when my hair was damaged, straight and flat, it never grew. But as soon as I had my fro back, it was unstoppable. Don’t get me wrong, it takes time to get a fro like Solange Knowles but with the right product, care and attention you will get there.
If you have any tips on how to care for afro hair, I’d love to hear them! Always on the look out for new ideas.