Finding your voice as a blogger

If there’s one issue that many new bloggers or in fact many writers experience, it’s finding their voice; whether that’s fear that their voice isn’t good enough, cool enough or niche enough to stand out from the crowd or they’re just simply lost and have no idea which direction to take. This feeling can be extremely scary and at times, incredibly lonely. You find yourself contstantly doubting and comparing your work to others, ‘how did they come up with that subject?’ ‘Damn it, I wish I could of thought of that’ and from here you see no way up so you end up quitting before you’ve even truely begun.

When I first started out writing at 15, I was so confident in myself. Instagram and Twitter didn’t exist and I hadn’t come into contact with many other writers yet. All my words and thoughts were my own and I’d just sit at the computer typing without having to second guess myself. A few years later I decided to move away and pursue a writing career by studying Journalism at university. I’m not 100% sure when the self-doubt kicked in but I’m fairly certain it was quick, probably when I started to read other peoples work and noticed they used bigger words in their pieces and more factual content. It wasn’t long before I knew I was more of a creative writer than anything else (it wasn’t until I left that they brought in a creative writing degree, cheers UCA!) and that’s when I fell in love with blogging. After reading multiple blogs, I soon started to doubt myself all over again, these girls all had something unique about them and had the ability to make you buy whatever they were blogging about and I was just a girl from Bradford who didn’t truely know what she wanted to write about.

It has taken me years of getting to know myself, seeing what works for me and what doesn’t, taking a hard look at myself in the mirror, at my flaws and finding a way to make those my strengths. Which is why I wanted to share with you how I got to where I am today, a more confident writer with a voice, it may be a whisper ATM but it’s getting there and if you find yourself struggling to find your voice in this loud community, I hope these tips help…

SPEND TIME WITH YOURSELF

How are you supposed to know what you’re interested in or what you want to write about if you hardly know yourself. If you are constantly spending time with other people, browsing social media or sat in front of the telly watching other people talk about what is important to them, you can be easily influenced. Try to take some time each day, it could be half an hour or a couple of hours on your own  and completely shut out the world around you. Find out what truely makes you tick, write down the things you enjoy doing and then ideas for what to write about will soon follow.

STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS

If I got paid an hourly rate for sitting down and winding myself up browsing other peoples feeds and bits, I’d own my own house by now but where did it actually get me? Absolutely nowhere. It really hit me how stupid I was being when somebody turned to me and said ‘How do you come up with such good topics and how come your pictures are so much better than mine?’ I thought to myself, seriously? I may be looking at others wishing I was as good at them but there were people out there looking at me in that same way. That’s when I realised there’s always going to be someone out there who’s smarter than you, more creative than you but all you can do is be yourself, do your best and greatness will follow.

WRITE FOR YOURSELF

Of course I absolutely love writing tips for others and I’ve always said that if one post or story I write helps one person then I’ve won but at the same time I can only write about topics that matter to me or personal experiences. There’s no use in following a trend and writing about what you think others want to hear even though you have no experience or don’t particularly care about it. You have to be your own number one fan because if you don’t like what you’re writing, why should anyone else?

MAKE YOURSELF A WRITERS PLAYLIST

Oh I love this one. Music is something that is so special to me when it comes to my writing. Over the years I’ve found listening to music really gets me in the zone and drowns out everything around me. It’s quite ironic actually that someone singing loudly puts me in tune with my own voice.

I hope some of these tips help you if you’re struggling to find your voice as a writer and be sure to comment below if you have any tips of your own!

 

 

 

6 Comments

  1. August 20, 2018 / 5:02 am

    I so needed this after hitting a bloggers roadblock & still being new to the scene ! I will definitely be giving myself more “me time”

    • laurendepass
      Author
      August 21, 2018 / 11:15 am

      Absolutely, it’s so important!! xx

  2. August 20, 2018 / 6:04 pm

    I love this post! I’ve been really struggling lately because it just feels like I’m not getting anywhere, so this is hugely helpful – thank you! I really need to work on not comparing myself and having more faith in my own work. It’s not a competition and if I waste so much time worrying about it all I just end up unhappy.
    Beth x Adventure & Anxiety

    • laurendepass
      Author
      August 21, 2018 / 11:16 am

      Awww I’m so glad this post helped you! Keep doing you ☺️ your blog is amazing xx

  3. Jasmin
    August 21, 2018 / 7:33 pm

    These are fantastic tips! After all, we’re doing this for ourselves and not for someone else. I really like your perspective girl! xx

    lots of love, Jasmin
    // littlethingswithjassy.com

  4. August 22, 2018 / 2:33 pm

    I love this post, and it so hand for times when you hit writers block and need a reminder!

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